Swingers Club Advice For Newbies
Sep 1st, 2016 at 05:56PM
Swinging? For some couples it has been their pillow talk and fantasy for months, others have already had some experiences under their belt with close friends. Now you are ready to meet other couples who share those same fantasies. What better place to meet new couples who are open minded and looking to add a little spice to that already awesome relationship than at a swing club.
A couples first time at a swing club can be the most exciting and intimidating experience of your life. But don’t worry, we are here to help relieve some of that nervousness. Some swing clubs are public meaning that their address is published they also tend to allow any couple to attend and other swing clubs and parties are more private, they generally have an approval process that all attendees must go through in order to attend, their location is usually private as well and only those approved will be given the location of the club. When choosing a club always use common sense and ask questions, genuine clubs will have a phone number or email address that you can contact, there is usually someone you can speak to for more information or to answer any questions you may have. Most swing club owners or party host don’t mind taking time out for new couples who have questions or reservations and want more information about the swing club and its environment.
So finally it is the Night!! The first thing to expect in most swing clubs and events is registration followed by a tour of the facility. This is great time to ask questions that you may have. Don’t be scared to ask a question either, I can guarantee that club owners have heard and seen it all, LOL. If possible it is a good idea to show up early as possible, this gives you time to get to know host/bartenders and meet some regulars, they are some great people to get to know and they usually have great advice and stories to tell, they can also help introduce you to other couples. The important thing to remember is to be yourself, don’t sit in the corner. Be social, don’t hesitate to introduce yourself to other couples. No one is going to think just because you approached someone and said “Hi” that you want to go to bed with them. A good swing club is there to provide a safe, no pressure atmosphere for open minded couples. If you do have an attraction with another couple introduce yourself, ask questions. Some great questions to ask other couples to help break the ice would be: “How long have you been in the lifestyle?” “How did you get into the lifestyle?” “Are you soft swap or full?” Making friends and being comfortable is the key to great swinging. You will find out during your first swing party how down to earth and respectful swingers are. A big misconception about swinger clubs is that many think that if I attend I have to have sex with another person, this is just not true. Attending a swing club does not mean that you have to play, this is a great way to meet other couples like yourselves and if you happen to find another couple with some chemistry you decide the rest…
Another suggestion we like to give those who are nervous is to not over drink. If you are attending a BYOB club do not bring extra alcohol to help settle the nerves, this is one of the worst things you can do. Bring about half of what you would normally drink at a regular vanilla social gathering. Some couples tend to over drink due to nerves and they either do something that they regret later or they will pass out and miss a great party. Another great tip we like to tell those new to this incredible swing community is to be honest and communicate with your spouse/partner. Swing Clubs/Events are there to provide a fun place to meet other like minded couples, no one wants to deal with drama. Communication and understanding is extremely important between you and your partner, your mate can’t read your mind, so if you have any anxieties you need to let them be known. We also suggest you let couples know that you are new to the lifestyle, many veterans are happy to give a little extra TLC to help you be more comfortable. Many experienced couples are happy to share how they handled their first swinging encounter, this may also help relieve any anxieties as well. Of course, we don’t mean to imply that you’ll definitely have problems. But if you should, we only wish to suggest that communication is the only real means of solving those problems…
Now on to swing etiquette… don’t be pushy! Many couples new to swinging are very often prepared for the fun, but are very poorly equipped to handle the rejections that may come their way. Remember that freedom of choice is every individual’s right in swinging and respecting that right is only common courtesy. Learn how to handle a “No, thank you” graciously and if you have to give out a “No, thank you” be polite about it. Use common courtesy and manners that we learned early on in life. You and your partner may also wish to discuss in advance your particular method of swinging; if you will swing alone or together, soft or full swap, bisexually or not. You may have other personal restrictions you’d like to have honored. ONLY you can decide those issues for yourselves, but please, do so before you start swinging.
Hopefully this article has helped relieve some apprehensions. Swinger clubs are a great way to meet other like minded couples face to face and is a great start for some awesome friendships. Happy Swinging and if you still have questions or concerns don’t hesitate to contact us.